Learning your “Emotion Scores”
Emotions are constantly in flux between flow and resistance states. When we say “emotional score,” we mean the overall levels of your emotional state. Practicing Emotional intelligence helps with understanding those states and managing yourself. With high emotional intelligence, you can switch your default emotional state to the one you desire because of your ability to regulate those emotions. Through mindfulness and taking the right actions, you can become focused, relaxed, happy, confident, and enthusiastic on command.
It takes time and practice to develop emotional intelligence. But first, you must have a growth mindset and believe that you can improve your EI no matter where you start. There is no limit to how much you can improve your emotional intelligence. There are three simple ideas to focus on as you learn more about yourself and your emotional guidance system.
#1. Know Yourself
#2. Define Your Values And Beliefs
#3. Ask And Listen To Yourself
Along with emotional intelligence comes Emotional awareness: recognizing and making sense of your own emotions and other people’s emotions. Emotions are the universal language. Even though you may not fully understand another person’s experience, you can still empathize with the emotions they feel.
Emotions are also essential to bringing us inner joy. Often, we depend on outside events to bring us joy, peace, and confidence. While it’s good to celebrate joyous occasions in life, you’ll find yourself sad, bored, depressed, angry, upset, annoyed, etc., if you constantly look for joy outside of you.
Emotions are present to teach and show us our thought and feeling patterns. Our past experiences become an emotional habit in our subconscious operating system. Seeing the pattern of emotion will help us understand what is confirmed in the present moment and what is in the operating system of the past.
We want to outline each emotion for you to become familiar with what it feels like to be connected to each. Learning your feelings is to manage your connection to the positives and your disconnection from the negatives.
- Love: Positive connection to self and others. Love is always present. To be connected to “Love” is to be connected to self and others. Love is welcoming. Love is light; it dispels darkness and is inclusive of all. When Love’s vibration is in alignment, the world responds with light and joy.
- When aligned with love, you may feel Light, Compassionate, Connected, Affectionate, Kind, Caring, and Worthy.
- When Misaligned with love, you may feel: Aggressive, Angry, Hateful, Disconnected, Fearful, Apathetic, and Jealous.
- Happiness: Your engagement with the world around you in a positive and fulfilling way. To be connected to “Happiness” means to live fully, connected to the positive feelings about your circumstances and relationships. It involves finding joy in your daily activities and seeking pleasure in each situation.
- When aligned with happiness, you may feel: Joyful, Complacent, Present, Engaged, Pleased, Peaceful, Content, Positive, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with happiness: Sad, Forlorning, Miserable, Negative, Depressed, Despondent, and Disconnected.
- Motivation: The amount of effort and energy you are willing to achieve your goals and objectives. To be connected to “Ambition” is to be driven to live with inspiration and determination. It involves actively pursuing your goals and objectives with confidence and willpower. It makes life fruitful and stimulating.
- When aligned with ambition, you may feel: Inspired, Resolute, Powerful, Determined, Energetic, Engaged, Ambitious, Motivated, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with ambition, you may feel: Uninspired, Unmotivated, Apathetic, Reserved, Uninterested, and Disconnected.
- Confidence: The surety with which you engage in your activities and relationships. To be connected to confidence is to be transparent and trustworthy of yourself and your abilities. It involves feeling capable and sure of your place in the world and believing that you are up to the task at hand, Knowing you are competent.
- When aligned with courage, you may feel: Competent, Able, Knowledgeable, Skilled, Self-assured, Poised, Positive, Secure, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with courage, you may feel: Negative, Insecure, Doubtful, Uncertain, Apprehensive, Timid, Anxious, and Disconnected.
- Support: Feeling connected and valued in life, relationships, and responsibilities. To be connected to “Engaged” is to connect to life fully. When immersed in your activities, actively involved in your relationships, and engaged with the circumstances around you, life becomes more full and rich. You are empowered by your connectedness and awareness.
- When aligned with support, you may feel: Engaged, Aware, Involved, Active, Dynamic, Observant, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with support, you may feel: Detached, Separate, Disengaged, Aloof, Indifferent, Removed, or Disconnected.
- Curiosity: The competence and confidence you maintain while moving through your daily life. To be connected to Disposition is to be associated with life with confidence, hopefulness, and trust. It involves believing in yourself, your skills and abilities, and the possible things for you. It makes life more fulfilling and easier to navigate.
- When aligned with healthy curiosity, you may feel: Confident, Competent, Clear, Trusting, Self-reliant, Poised, Calm, Peaceful, Decisive, Certain, Secure, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with healthy curiosity, you may feel: Insecure, Uncertain, Fearful, Doubtful, Hesitant, Incapable, Undecided, Vague, Tentative, and Disconnected.
- Awareness: Your ability to be present at the moment and engaged with the circumstances that surround you. You are aware of what you put your energy towards. To be connected to awareness is to be involved in life with clarity and attention. It consists in participating, being present, and being focused. It makes life more straightforward and less stressful.
- When aligned with awareness, you will feel: Present, Aware, Sensible, Clear, Attentive, Alert, Engaged, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with proper focus, you will feel: Disinterested, Distracted, Inattentive, Careless, Neglectful, Aloof, Uncaring, and Disconnected.
- Adaptability: Ability to look at life and circumstances with a fresh perspective. To be connected to “Peace” is to be connected to life in a way that is very present, very mindful, and open to change. You are aware of your circumstances and are willing to alter your plans to acclimate appropriately.
- When aligned with adaptability, you may feel: Open, Vulnerable, Free, Receptive, Aware, Flexible, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with adaptability, you may feel: Stubborn, Obstinate, Immovable, Inflexible, and Disconnected.
- Reflectiveness: The amount of time you spend in contemplation before acting. To be connected to “Pondering” is to be connected to life contemplatively and thoughtfully. It involves effectively evaluating your circumstances to avoid getting stuck in the consideration process. It makes life positive, smooth, and straightforward.
- With alignment with reflectiveness, you may feel: Contemplative, Considerate, Engaged, Pensive, Reflective, Rational, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with reflectiveness: Impulsive, Impetuous, Impatient, Narrow-minded, Imprudent, Irrational, and Disconnected
- Peace: The ability to be at ease in your daily life and routines. To be connected to peace is to be connected to your circumstances and relationships with a sense of security. It involves embracing reality and feeling confident in your ability to navigate your circumstances. It makes life more joyful and less stressful.
- When aligned with comfort, you may feel: Calm, Peaceful, Secure, Optimistic, Carefree, Relaxed, Confident, Content, Positive, and Connected.
- When Misaligned with comfort, you may feel Stressed, Anxious, Nervous, Doubtful, Pessimistic, Defensive, On-edge, and Disconnected.
Resistant emotion will help you see what you may be resisting in your life. These emotions guide you to the “lies” you have come to believe about yourself or others.
Many of us have been programmed not to be honest with ourselves. We have been taught to tell ourselves that these emotions are “bad” or that we shouldn’t feel this way. That is simply not true. We are meant to feel. We are vibrational beings who are meant to feel the human experience. ALL emotions guide us to the truth within ourselves.
When observing the negative emotions, ask yourself what is the “truth” in this emotion and how you can observe the story in a new way to shift it into a higher vibrational thought and feeling. Through practice, you will come to “see” these emotions as teachers and thank them for showing you the beliefs you have come to accept that may no longer serve you. They are part of your experience of life. We must know the opposite of the positive to understand and feel what the positive truly is full of. Resistance reveals the full spectrum of feelings. We have to accept and allow all ranges of emotion to feel through life fully!
- Sadness: High levels of sadness and grief stack together to form a focal point of your thoughts and emotions. To be connected to “Sorrow” is to be connected to negative thoughts about your circumstances. It involves becoming entangled in a thinking pattern that keeps you suspended in sadness instead of moving through the underlying emotions. It makes life difficult and painful.
- When aligned with sorrow, you may feel Sad, Depressed, Negative, Stagnant, Distressed, Uninspired, Hopeless, and Disconnected.
- When Misaligned with sadness, you may feel: Happy, Positive, Optimistic, Joyful, Secure, Inspired, Whole, Fulfilled and Connected.
- Anger: Your response to the world around you with intense and often personal emotion that is negative and derogatory
- To be connected to “Anger” is to be connected to your circumstances in a painful, often illogical way. It involves giving in to your emotions, being fearful and frustrated, and losing rational judgment of the situation.
- Aligned: Irritated, Flustered, Livid, Exasperated, Reactionary, Unreasonable, Fearful, Aggressive
- Misaligned: Calm, Rational, Peaceful, Compassionate, Diplomatic, Passive
- Stress: The level of intensity and energy that circumstances, relationships, and responsibilities demand of your mental and emotional awareness.
- To be connected to “Stress” is to be connected to life in a manner that focuses on what is wrong, incomplete, or undesired. It involves allowing yourself to be overwhelmed by your circumstances. It makes life more complex and less satisfying.
- Aligned: Frustrated, Confused, Overwhelmed, Exhausted, Worried, Tense, Strained, Tired, Hassled, Irritated
- Misaligned: Peaceful, Calm, Present, Relaxed, Secure, Safe, Capable, Prepared, Whole, Confident, Comfortable
- Fear: The pervasive feeling of insecurity, powerlessness, and belief of lack of support or opportunities
- To be connected to “Fear” is to be disconnected from joy. It involves attaching yourself to scarcity and delusion. Fear is a misunderstanding of your circumstances and feeling powerless over your situations.
- Aligned: Apprehensive, Uncertain, Terrified, Anxious, Uneasy, Uncomfortable
- Misaligned: Joyful, Peaceful, Confident, Calm, Open, Understanding, Connected
- Loneliness: Lack of connection to others. Prolonged feelings of isolation and a pervasive sense that others do not understand you.
- To be connected to “Loneliness” is to be disconnected from others. It involves a feeling of separation and distance. It makes life difficult and often discouraging.
- Aligned: Separate, Different, Unworthy, Insecure, Abandoned, Rejected, Excluded, Ignored, Unimportant, Isolated, Disconnected
- Misaligned: Supported, Wanted, Included, Involved, Loved, Valued, Connected
- Confusion: Lack of clarity around daily activities, circumstances, and emotional reactions
- To be connected to “Confusion” is to be connected to life in a scattered way that involves illogical reflection. It is a misperception of circumstances and a misunderstanding of the motives of others.
- Aligned: Bewildered, Disorganized, Irrational, Muddled, Uncertain
- Misaligned: Resolute, Certain, Confident, Rational, Clear, Organized
Where you place your attention is where you put your energy. The stronger the emotion you feel in that attention, the more you create your emotional reality. Observing your emotion and becoming aware of the present feeling allows you to be proactive with the emotion and respond to life rather than being in a constant state of reaction and habit to the past. You are NOT your emotion. Your emotion is present to show you your relationship to the everyday experience. Keeping your attention on YOU and where you give your power to that emotion is the key to true self-empowerment.
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